People take your cue on how to behave around you. If you act ashamed of yourself, they will be ashamed of you. If you act proud - even if it’s just an act - people will kowtow. Get over it. Dress well. Own it. Fake it long enough and you just may start believing it yourself. As for those who freak about the f-word [fat] or the f-body, just try to shine some love on those poor fools. Then go ahead and take up space.